Basic Dating Rules 1-2-3

Every game has its rules to follow. There is no exceptions for the dating game. For a time we are completely aware of the rules of dating and we practice those rules every time we meet someone. But then we meet someone perhaps, fall in love and have a relationship. Little by little the things we learned over our formative years when dealing with the fairer sex are lost and are in fact unlearned or simple ignored.

Then one day we are unwillingly thrust back onto the dating scene only to find that we start behaving like 12 year olds start all over again. We call our dates too often, we are constantly available, we wear the wrong clothes, laugh at bad jokes like a fool, date the wrong people and generally get it all badly wrong. Then we get hurt or taken for a ride. Of course there will be some of you reading this that are the very epitome of dating sophistication, but the truth is, when you lose your heart you also lose your head. If you are going to date well then give these key do's and don'ts of dating some serious consideration. Dating rules are very important if you want to win and keep your perfect match.


Dating Rules - Do's

1. Do try to look your best and be punctual on dates

2. Do have fun when dating. I know the subject of Mr. or Miss Right is serious but dating is fun too so keep it that way.

3. Do flatter and compliment your date on the way they look and the things they wear. People tend to go to a lot of effort on a date (hopefully) so being told that you are looking good is a nice thing to hear.

4. Be interested and interesting. As the Pet Shop Boys once said, I was never bored because I was never being boring" or something similar. You get my drift.

5. Do tell someone if you are not interested in dating them again. Being lied to and hopes kept alive is an evil and malicious act (yes I mean it that strongly). If you don't want to see someone again then let them know that in the nicest possible way you can.

6. Do date the type of people you like and are attracted to, whatever your friends may say. Approval by your peers doesn't prove a thing.

7. Do stay positive even when dates don't end well. It is most certainly true that you will date a few frogs before you find a prince. Along the way you will meet some nice people too and make some good contacts possibly.

8. Dating is a creative diversion, it requires concentration and energy so when you are dating keep some plans in the forefront of your mind and allow dating to take you to places you always wanted to visit within your own city.

9. Do make dating happen for yourself. People will not come and ring your bell from nowhere. Dating requires positive action so go out there and meet people, as many people as you can. Practice your chat and flirting on shop workers, bar attendants, anywhere and everywhere. Being nice to people is very sexy and great fun.

10. Do surround yourself with positive like minded people who are also dating. Think about the girls from Sex and the City and how they assist each other in dating and matters of romance. Negative friends who don't condone the dating scene or don't understand it will only help lower your own expectations and make you feel negative.

Dating Rules - Don'ts

1. Never call someone more than once a day unless they reply. Desperation and instability are huge turn offs.

2. Don't date the people who you usually find dump you. You may be generally attracted to bastards but that will not get you anywhere except hurt.

3. For men, never ever be late for a date, even if you have a very good reason. Women should never be kept waiting and should never have to seat themselves - ever.

4. Never tell lies to your date or pretend anything about your life that isn't true. If this is your perfect match for God's sake do not allow it to be ruined by some silly lie told early on.

5. Never be too available. Being available every night of the week and at the end of every whimsical phone call or possible rendezvous means you are making yourself uninteresting and a possible doormat. Be busy, be unavailable generally and be interesting.

6. Don't give away too much about yourself at the start. People love enigma and mystery. Revealing to your new date your inner most secrets on date number two will quickly ruin everything. A small bit at a time people.

7. Never check other people out when you are with your date. You may think you are subtle , your date will be heading for the door. Have the courtesy of concentrating solely on your date when you are with them.

8. Don't be rude or get drunk on a date. Courtesy and manners will get you everywhere.

9. Don't ignore your personal safety when dating. Have a cellular phone and keep it charged, tell your friends where you are going and be safe. Date at first in well known public places and never ever be pushed into anything you are not happy with.

10. Don't give out personal information like home phone numbers and addresses on a first date. Keep them until you are sure of your date and the future possibilities.

11. Don't have sex on a first date if you ever want to see your new date again. If you like them and are interested in them, sex on a first date will usually ruin everything. Its too much too soon and is not the way of romance. Believe me I am 100% certain on this.

12. Never date a married person. They will not leave their husbands or wives for you (except exceptionally rarely). Married dating is the sure fire way to misery, lies, deceit, lack of self respect and loss of romance. If you are married, separate first. If you are single, don't be a shoulder to cry on, you deserve far better.

Newly Divorced - Explaining the Dating Scene

Each person's dating situtation is different, the dating scene can be quite intimidating for a person who is newly divorced. If you are trying to explain the joys and challenges of being a single person you will want to make known the following points as discussed below.

Appear confident: Help your friend in the area of personal grooming and hygiene. Encourage him or her to shave, get a haircut, go to the gym, or start a new hobby. Whatever help you can give your friend (as long as your friend wants the help) does it. In the long run your friend will be grateful.

Try not to put out too soon: Those who have been married before may be in an extremely vulnerable position. They are used to having someone there, and having someone to touch and hold. Therefore, they may end up seeking the physical affection every available single. Having sex with too many people is risky and will most likely cause your friend more pain than it is worth.

Don’t be too clingy: Those who are married may end up being clingy when they meet someone new. This may be because they are looking to fill the void that is there from the previous person now being gone. If your friend is getting too emotionally attached too quickly you may want to advise him or her to try to slow it down out there. Also explain to your friend that they will not want to make a decision right away about who to date too soon, because it may not be the right person. Encourage your friend to take time to look around for a while before settling on one person again.

For women (and some guys): Don’t push marriage too soon. The speed of every relationship is very different, so there is really no set time to start considering marrying someone. However, you are advised not to suggest it to the person you are with until after several months have passed. This doesn’t mean that you cannot talk about marriage in general, or what you would want in a relationship. Those things should be discussed as early as possible. However, be careful about appearing too needy and expecting a guy to propose after only a few months. This is true for guys as well, who sometimes want to get married quickly because they are sick of being alone.

For men: Try not to sleep with women out of desperation or a quick fix. Someone usually always gets hurt-either you or them. Try to limit the number of sexual partners you have after a divorce, especially if you hope to have a new solid relationship in the future.

Find healthy ways to meet people: You can introduce your single again friend to all the best social clubs, respectable bars, coffee shops, and community centers. At these places you can mingle, have a drink, or even do community service. Sometimes you can find people who want to get together to make up a sports’ team as well.

Be careful who you bring home to your kids: If you have ever had any bad experiences with bringing your dates home to meet your children your newly single friend can learn from it. Advise your just-divorced friend to observe his or her date very carefully. Note any signs of drug or alcohol abuse, inappropriate sexual behavior, or put-downs towards your children. Hopefully this behavior can be caught before your friend brings home a date. However, people can hide their true colors for quite awhile. Therefore, try to use caution. If you want even a greater piece of mind you can do a background check on your date.

Be careful when you give your friend advice, however, and remember also that your friend is an adult. You also need to give your friend room to make his or her choices in life, even if they are ones you do not agree with. If your friend welcomes your advice you can continue to give it. If not, it is better to keep your mouth shut.

Ten Romantic Gestures that Women Want Men to Try

Ten Romantic Gestures that Women Want Men to Try

Ladies, if the love of your life is lacking in the romance department, you know how hard it is to motivate him to change. Sure, you could tell him – but that is not the same as his suddenly realizing that there is something else he could be doing in the romance department, right? This is especially true when you are married and may already be a parent – after all, who has time for romance when there is homework that needs to be checked, right? Wrong! Why not leave him a list of the ten romance gestures that women want men to try in his briefcase, on his pillow, or under his dinner plate?
The list could read as follows:
Book a leisurely weekend getaway at a local bed & breakfast. Take care of who will baby sit the kids, feed the goldfish, and walk the dog. Have a bag packed with her essentials for a weekend trip, the car already loaded, and be ready to go when she gets home from work on Friday.
Leave a love note on the steering wheel of her car, rose petals on the seats, and a stuffed animal on the passenger seat. Make this an opportunity to tell her just how much she means to you, how much you value her contributions to the family and to your relationship, and how fortunate you are that she loves you.
Send a gift basket to her at work. Harry and David make some extraordinary ones that include healthy foods but also heavenly chocolate creations. She will be the envy of her coworkers and will be only too happy to brag about what a great man she has! Flower deliveries are nice, but take it one step further, and you will not be disappointed in the reaction you get.
Learn how to give a foot massage. There is actually a lot more to massaging someone’s feet than just putting some oil or lotion on them. Read up on reflexology and learn how to do it right, and she will be forever putty in your hands.
Hold hands. Be the one to initiate handholding. There is nothing quite as reassuring as having you hold hands with the woman in your life, and she loves the fact that you are man enough to show affection like this.
Learn about one of her hobbies. If the love of your life is an avid reader, find out who her favorite author is, read a book by this author, learn about the characters, and be ready and willing to discuss the book with her. If she has not yet read it, buy it for her!
Instead of turning on the television after dinner, make some iced tea and take it out into the yard, onto the balcony, or on the porch, and get two chairs ready. Sit down together with her and relax. Talk about the day, about anything at all, and listen intently to what she says.
Sign the two of you up for dance lessons. It does not have to be anything fancy, like Tango, but just some couples’ classes for ballroom dancing that will help her to fall in love with you all over again. As a matter of fact, you might just discover a healthy way to spend some time away from home that will keep you in shape and may actually be the beginning of a beautiful hobby together.
Cancel your weekly Saturday golf game to spend time with her. Perhaps you could take a road trip into the mountains or down the coast and stop at a city nearby for brunch. Plan ahead to take advantage of any special fairs or events that may be hosted in that city at that time.
Surprise her with two tickets to a show, music event, or other occasion she enjoys, and a babysitter who is ready to watch the kids. Make sure you have dinner all planned out, so that she will not be hungry during the show!
Ladies, if you leave this list where the man in your life can easily find it, there is no telling what he might come up with! So go ahead and give it a whirl – you will be glad you did.